The Denial Mode

You  often come across with people to whom it is as much clear as the day light that they are gay, still don’t want to come out ever in their lives. Most of such people are looking for nothing else but a quick and dispassionate sexual encounters. Marrying a suitable girls at some point of time in future is a given. They leave no stone unturned in trying to change the mind of an another gay person who tells them that he is in search of a relationship. For such people those who seek a true relationship, are nothing but frighteningly foolish people who are going to face a very dim future along with their families. 

For such wise and super intelligent people feelings are to be saved for their would be wives whom they shall continue to cheat even after utilizing her to hid their ‘shameful reality’.

I am told often by people that it is such people’s personal choice that they don’t want to come out in front of the society or family and it should be left to the individual’s own discretion. Further many people don’t see any harm in keeping some sort of concealed sexual relationships with one or two boys even after getting married. But I am of the contrary view. While there cannot be two different views that it should be left to the individual whether he wants to come out or not and the timing and the people involved, I see no justification of the act of concealing your actual identity by using some other human beings as your shield against society and cheating her even after  using her like a commodity.  To me it is an inhuman practice.

I don’t know how many gays will continue to live in denial that they shall be looking after their wives well and fulfilling all her wishes and meanwhile having an extra-marital affair to satisfy their unfulfilled wishes. If one looks into the behavior of such people deeply, one can easily reach to the conclusion that by doing so these people are going to push themselves in a tailspin. It is amply clear to every gay that even though he can sexually satisfy a woman, he himself can’t get satisfied mentally or physically or in both the ways.  Knowing this hard fact if one opts to marry a girl, isn’t it like choosing to cheat her?  Why do gays want to rank as number one hypocrite community. Why do they want to be double faced? Just out of the fear of society? Why can’t they gather some courage to accept what they actually want? Why do they want to set different standards for themselves and some moral values which are unknown to others?