Certain Gay Questions And Straight Answers Thereof

Many a times, people who have become frustrated after months or years of efforts, ask me questions, like ‘Is it possible for a gay to get a life partner?’ or like ‘How can I get a life partner?’.

To these people, I would humbly like to tell that contrary to their notion, I am not a ‘Love Guru’. Of course I hold such people in high esteem who ask such questions for the simple reason that it shows their serious approach towards gay life. They are better than many other gays who think that the ultimate aim of gay life is just to keep having sex with random peoples indiscriminately.

Still to the best of my knowledge and belief, I would like to tell something to such curious people.

We all know it is relatively more difficult to find a suitable life partner when you are born as a gay, especially in this part of the world. But there are many other difficult things for which we put in all our efforts. Who says education is easy? Who says getting a suitable job is easy? But still, we don’t cease to aim for these! We all know that we put in years of efforts into our pursuit to get good education and job. Then why do we become frustrated so soon with our little or virtually no effort to get a person to spend life with? 

You don’t expect that someday somebody will knock at your door and will hand over you the bundles of money and you will become rich in this manner. You all know it is not going to happen. You all know without your own efforts it is never going to happen. Then why on planet earth you expect that someday someone will come into your life hold your hand and will introduce you to a new world of love and affection? For this you will simply have to make some efforts.

Therefore all those who ask such question to me, I suggest them to be a little more truthful to yourself. Before asking such question to a friend or to a stranger like me, ask yourself – ‘Have I tried enough for it?’ And if answer to this question is negative, then please start working for it and then you will not have to ask such questions from others.